Your divorce can be one of the most damaging and expensive things that ever happens to you. Unfortunately the divorce industry is set up as a government monopoly to benefit one group of people - those in the divorce industry. Attorneys will happily charge you $200, $300, even $500 per hour to educate you about things you could read for free. They also have a direct conflict of interest -- the more difficult and time consuming the divorce, the more money they make. Because it is easy to manipulate people in this situation, when emotions are flaring, divorce lawyers have developed this into a very profitable, though often unethical, art. As a result they often end up getting 40% of your estate, equity, retirement funds and all other assets while destroying the bonds between ex-spouses and parent-child bonds too.

I will work with you, and your spouse if appropriate, to plan a transition and resolve things practically and quickly - not using the expensive and adversarial legal system any more than necessary. Even attorneys and judges often agree that this system is completely incompetent at handling delicate, family matters. Because this industry is a government monopoly run by lawyers, it is not only inefficient, but it is also enormously destructive to the family's relationships and it's assets. In fact most people who go through this system eventually realize too late that their divorce lawyers provide little or no real value, only further damage, at an extremely high cost. Most people feel "ripped off" by this system by the end of their divorce.

If you depend on lawyers in this system you are turning your children and destiny over to government workers who care and know little about your family - nothing could be more risky. Lawyer's fundamental operating rules are destructive, not constructive. Although this may sound unbelievable to many this is all very well documented. The book "Taken Into Custody" by Dr. Stephen Baskerville exposes this system's many conflicts of interest and the billions in federal matching funds to states that drive up child support each year by awarding damaging sole-custody to one parent.

The divorce process will do far more damage to you, your soon to be ex-spouse and your children than the divorce itself. Some say lawyers intentionally "pour gasoline on the fire" to drive up conflict and legal fees. I have seen this happen many times and some lawyers even admit this happens every day. Many even encourage their clients to do illegal things like invoking the draconian domestic violence laws when there is no domestic violence. This immediately damages the family and children but they like this because it sets up their client for a long, hard and expensive divorce process by shutting down direct communications between the couple completely.

Why use a divorce coach? Because of these problems with divorce attorneys that can be avoided including:

1. Lawyers have major conflicts of interest due to their fee structure and "legal" practices that exacerbate the issues
2. Lawyers use a legal, not a practical, approach which includes shutting down communications between the couple. This standard lawyer operating procedure virtually guarantees a longer process and higher fees for them. The #1 priority should be to leave lines of communication open as anyone who ever took a negotiations course knows.
3. Lawyers have very high hourly rates not justified by the value they contribute but only made possible by the monopolistic practices of the industry cartel called The American Bar Association (ABA).
4. Lawyers are more concerned about not confronting judges who they see regularly, than with what is best for their clients' and their client's children. This is an "old boys club" that wants to maintain its monopoly.
5. Attorneys want you to work through other attorneys to drive up fees (two clocks running for each sentence and line of a letter) and maintain control of the process (in my view this is unethical behavior and yet standard practice for divorce attorneys).
6. Everyone knows that most attorneys have questionable loyalties and ethics. Surveys show trust of attorneys by the public is way under used car salespeople and with good reason - attorneys take whatever position the party that pays them takes and therefore must have a "flexible moral integrity" to even become an attorney.

Divorce attorneys have a complete lack of understanding of what is "best for children" and want to maintain that ignorance to generate more custody battles for themselves. Often the children are not even on their radar screen because they want to "win" money for the client to justify their high fees. This creates even higher conflict and causes a destructive, and profitable divorce process for lawyers. Attorneys use paranoia, separation, fear mongering and other scare tactics to control the case and keep it going longer.

BOTTOM LINE: Do not trust any divorce attorney! Do not trust them to do what is in your best interest. They will do what is in their own best interest every time.

The Alternative to Lawyers:

There are a few strategies that can be used to avoid the pain and destruction of a divorce that are dependent on your particular circumstances. A divorce coach simply helps you select the right strategy and manage the process efficiently. By providing knowledge and experience a coach can guide you through this process and help you avoid the traps. The relatively minor cost of a divorce coach will likely save both you and your spouse tens of thousands of dollars each in legal fees -- and even more long-term pain and suffering for you and your children.

I do this as a passion to help people because the divorce business is in bad need of reform and destroys families and children financially and economically by default. This can be avoided with some minimal planning and level of cooperation. I am personally involved in divorce reform efforts at both the state and federal levels and have met with legislators and others to expose and reform this damaging system. It now impacts 26 million children negatively, and a similar number of parents, every year.

Our goal is to be "child-centric" taking the children as the most fragile and important part of the divorce process. Money can be replaced but it is easy to do irreparable damage to children that will impact them for the rest of their lives in negative ways. We do not try to "win" for one party or the other. We try to do a fair and equitable agreement and separation that will save the assets of the marriage from plundering by lawyers. The #3 reason for bankruptcy is divorce and so it is important to plan financially as costs will most likely go up and income may, or may not.

What a Divorce Coach can do:

Our primary objective is to develop a plan and get to closure quickly with a minimum of emotional and financial damage to all parties. This will most often take six to twelve months to full complete (due to legal filings needed) but the plan itself can be developed in weeks. Protecting the children will be the highest priority. We will do this by:

1. Helping set your strategy to minimize financial cost and emotional damage. Having a plan early is the key and lawyers would lead you down the expensive and adversarial path without one
2. Developing a financial plan for a transitional period and your new life after the divorce is final
3. Helping you understand what works best for your children and plan for minimum damage (some is unavoidable)
4. Helping maintain civil communications and a productive relationship with your ex-spouse
5. Being an unbiased, third party advisor who can provide independent and outside perspective
6. Providing referrals and guidance to other needed services before, during and after the divorce process

The Divorce Process We Use:

1. Sign engagement agreement
2. Discovery Process (financial and living situation) - 1-3 weeks
3. Development of Transition Plan for couple and children - 1-4 weeks
4. Development of a 2-3 year personal budget - 1-4 weeks
5. Reach a fair agreement on asset distribution - varies greatly due to need for agreement
6. Development an agreement on a parenting plan - also varies greatly but we start with simple boilerplates (while attorneys will develop everything custom on the clock)
7. Submission to court and closure - as legal submission process allows by state laws for uncontested divorce (no trial, elaborate discovery and savings of tens of thousands of dollars)

Options and Cost:

Please be advised that the average divorce using lawyers now costs over $100,000
while the average mediation is about $3,000. This does not include all lost work time and income.
Why do you think this gap is so big?

Call (617) 571-7591 today for a free 20 minute consultation
to determine if using a divorce coach can benefit you.

Disclosures:

We are not lawyers, mediators, psychologists or therapists and do not offer specific legal, medical or psychological advice. We help you avoid more expensive legal confrontation. Divorce law varies by state, though there is a lot of overlap and common problems caused by legal practices and federal financial incentives. We can not represent you in court, only a lawyer can do that as lawyers have made it a crime to practice law without being part of their ABA cartel. This is a private coaching and consulting relationship with a confidential and fiduciary relationship and requires the signing of a letter of engagement. A $500 deposit is required to start. An hourly rate of $140 to $165 per hour plus any expenses is billed for all work. Expenses are usually minimal unless we mediate. In that case there can be fees for overnight mail, travel and other items.

Estimates are based on an average situation. The goal is to minimize cost and pain of the process for you, your children and your spouse. We may, where legal, offer negotiation, mediation or other additional services that will get to a divorce settlement more quickly. Our goal is to make regular progress continuing to take issues off the table at each step. Depending on your situation you may be required to read certain materials, books and/or even attend classes (required in some states). Credit cards are accepted.

NOTE: If you want to deny your spouse all time with your children, and there is not serious physical abuse, we will refuse to work with you and recommend you seek other kinds of personal and/or professional help as this is damaging to children. Denying children access to the other parent is called "parental alienation" or "hostile aggressive parenting". This is indicative of serious psychological and/or emotional problems with the parent and in some states reason for them to not have custody. Conditions indicated by this behavior may include bi-polar disorder, borderline personality disorder, low self-esteem and other clinical conditions which we are not equipped to treat.

Background:

Bob Norton started his career as a computer programmer in 1981, became a Director of Software Development in 1984, Vice President of Engineering in 1986 and in 1989 founded his first company as a CEO. He has grow two companies to over $100 million in sales and done philanthropic work since 1995.

Mr. Norton is an author and speaker and also runs seminars for CEO's as the president of C-Level Enterprises, Inc. C-Level develops and distributes training and information products for several markets and does coaching work. He is not an attorney and will take offense to any comment which implies he is, though he has done much of his own legal work since 1989.

Due to his own divorce situation and the damage it did to his children and him he has decided to dedicate at least 10 years of philanthropic work towards divorce reform efforts. Previously he has done philanthropic work for children, including raising millions in funding for K-12 school technology and teaching low income children sailing to build character and confidence. As a CEO since 1989 he is very experience in legal matters, negotiation, management and leadership. He teaches a CEO Boot Camp and coaches CEO's at a significantly higher hourly rate than this divorce coaching work which is part of his divorce reform efforts to build a better model for this industry.

Mr. Norton is dedicated to complete reform of the broken divorce system, which awards sole custody about 92% of the time even though all the credible scientific research has proven that this is the most harmful situation for children. It is clear to anyone who studies it that the divorce industry is corrupted by money and obsolete traditions and is causing great damage to children, the U.S. and its families. He is working with legislators and others to drive massive reform ASAP. This work began in 2005 and divorce coaching is a means to this reform goal. There are currently over 100 non-profit organization dedicated to divorce reform but a for-profit model is required to reform this $100+ billion industry due to the financial momentum and vested interests that resist change to maintain these ill gotten profits.

Contact Us Today

We offer a free 15-20 minute phone consultation to evaluate your situation. After that a $500 deposit is required to get started. You may contact us at (617) 571-7591 9am to 8pm ET

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